APC 2016 Biennial Conference – initial report

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Twenty-five members and associates of APC gathered in Sarum College, Salisbury, during the first weekend in May for our biennial Conference. The surroundings were beautiful, the hospitality excellent, and we were blessed with warm and sunny weather which enabled us to enjoy the Close and Cathedral during breaks.
The Conference theme was “Embodying Gender, Sexuality and Diversity”. Susannah Cornwall and David Mair were our two speakers on Saturday morning, and both provided us with much food for thought. In the afternoon we were able to choose from five workshops on the same theme.
Our Eucharist on Sunday was celebrated by the Bishop of Salisbury, who is our Link Bishop.
More feedback, reports and photos of the Conference will appear soon – watch this space!

Report to the APC Executive Committee

Many thanks to all the members who responded to the questionnaire we sent round earlier this year. The results have been collated and are available here in a report format. Please send any thoughts or comments to the Secretary, Heather Vernon, at heatherv@btinternet.com

2014 Biennial Conference dates

The next APC Biennial Conference will be the weekend of 16th to 18th May 2014 at Whirlow Grange Spirituality and Conference Centre near Sheffield.

PLEASE NOTE: Places are limited and we are almost fully booked
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BOOK REVIEW – “A Clergy Husband’s Survival Guide” (SPCK 2012)

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Matthew Caminer writes:“I am married to a curate in her second year since ordination. On the back of that, I wrote a book called “A Clergy Husband’s Survival Guide” (SPCK 2012).  I was subsequently invited to talk to ordinand spouses, and then to ordinands themselves, at Ripon College Cuddesdon where I already knew Beau Stevenson, the Adviser in the Oxford Diocese. The emphasis is on knowing what to expect of ‘life in the vicarage’, what dilemmas, pressures, expectations, assumptions etc they face, and develop strategies up front for dealing with them, on the basis that forewarned is forearmed. 

Subsequently, Beau Stevenson wrote a review for ‘The Door’ newspaper in Oxford. He has agreed to it being reproduced here:

A CLERGY HUSBAND’S SURVIVAL GUIDE BY MATTHEW CAMINER , SPCK, £8.99

This is a remarkable and readable book primarily because it is so concise.  It doesn’t give answers, but it certainly poses all the right questions in considering the complex relationship between an ordained clergy wife and husband and the parish they are in.   The format is clear and down to earth with bullet points and clearly enunciated questions about the dilemmas to expect. (Problems have solutions, while dilemmas have to be lived with because there are no clear-cut once and for all answers.)

For instance, as the clergy house belongs to the church how is the church space/family space handled if the family wish to play loud music during a Church meeting?  How about timing when you hang the knickers out to dry in the garden or having to keep the living room perpetually vacuumed? How are private and parish calls to be handled (separate phones or separate rings?) What about expectations and boundaries between the husband and clergy wife in terms of attending church or passing on messages, some of which might be very personal?  There are some very positive suggestions about helping the spouse keep important boundaries about days off, time for retreats and private family time together.

This is also not just a book to be read by the spouse, it poses questions for the parish and the Church hierarchy to consider from their perspective as well in order to give support and to avoid unnecessary conflict.

This is a book which I think should be required reading in theological colleges as well as by parishes in exploring what they will be expecting of the clergy they appoint.

There are also spiritual issues discussed in terms of loss of faith or what happens when a sense of vocation changes, a spouse loses their job or what would happen if there was a serious illness or unexpected death.

Its simplicity, humanity, and warm humour will make it a classic source of advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict through forethought.  I would recommend it highly for a wide readership.

Beau Stevenson

2012 Conference Report

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Twenty Five Pastoral care and Counselling Advisers and Associate APC members got together in the beautiful surroundings of Holland House in Worcestershire for the Biennial Conference entitled Breakdown or Breakthrough? Working with Conflict as Pastoral Care Advisers.

Two speakers addressed the conference:

Jeremy Young

Jeremy works as a Systemic Family Psychotherapist in Somerset. He is a former Director of Pastoral and Practical Theology in the Church of Ireland Theological College in Dublin, a past chairman of the Guild of Pastoral Psychology and a published poet. His books, The Cost of Certainty’ and ‘The Violence of God and the War on Terror’ explore the repressive and violent tendencies within the monotheistic religions.

Jeremy reflected as a pastoral theologian on the theme of conflict, bearing in mind the current painful schisms in the Church of England. He drew on his pastoral/theological and psychological insights to consider how we might work with individual and organisational defences to move from entrenched positions to a more co-operative stance.

Jeremy’s fascinating and challenging talk “Working with Conflict” is available in the Resources section, or click here to download directly.

Jackie Searle

Jackie is the vicar of St Peter’s, Littleover, Derby; Rural Dean of Derby South; and is a member of the General Synod of the Church of England. She was on the staff at Trinity College, Bristol from 1996-2003 where she was Dean of Women and taught Pastoral Theology. Jackie has been Dean of Women’s Ministry in the Diocese of Derby for several years and has interests in conflict transformation, pastoral theology, leadership and spirituality. She also undertakes occasional work for Bridge Builders in helping churches to handle conflict.

Using case studies, Jackie gave a stimulating talk which drew from her experience to enable us to think about the different, often complex and difficult facets of working with conflict. Using Mark 4 v35 -41 Jackie reflected on the storms we face as a Church, and the repercussions of conflict and anxiety. Using a series of images she then reflected on how we handle interpersonal conflict and the influence of “personal hinterland” (our personal histories, transference and who we are with), our family of origin and the culture of the institution we are part of.

Another dimension of the conference was group work in a confidential setting to explore member’s experiences of working with conflict.

The conference also included the AGM in which the new Co-ordinating Group was elected, an amended constitution was adopted and the new web site was introduced to members.

Welcome to Anglican Pastoral Care

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Welcome to the website of Anglican Pastoral Care.

As well as finding out more about us, you can:

  • Contact your local Diocesan Advisor by phone or email;
  • Download resources to help develop and publicise your service or recruit local advisors;
  • Apply for membership;
  • Gain access to the discussion forums – open to all members (you will just need to register to be able to post messages) and covering a wide range of topics of interest.

If you’d like to comment on the website, or make suggestions for new content, you can do so in this forum. Or, to report a problem, you can use the contact form here.

The 2012 Biennial Conference

 

Sunken Garden at Holland House

Holland House, the venue for the 2012 Biennial Conference

Breakdown or Breakthrough?

Working with conflict as Pastoral Care Advisers

The Biennial Conference takes place from Friday 18th to Sunday 20th May 2012 at  Holland House, Cropthorne, Worcestershire WR10 3NB.

Keynote speakers will be Reverend Jeremy Young and Reverend Canon Jackie Searle.

This year’s consultation will be on the theme of conflict and so we have invited two speakers who will address the issue from psychological, theological and practical perspectives.

Reverend Jeremy Young

Jeremy works as a Systemic Family Psychotherapist in Somerset. He is a former Director of Pastoral and Practical Theology in the Church of Ireland Theological College in Dublin, a past chairman of the Guild of Pastoral Psychology and a published poet. His books, The Cost of Certainty’ and ‘The Violence of God and the War on Terror’ explore the repressive and violent tendencies within the monotheistic religions.

Jeremy will reflect as a pastoral theologian on the theme of conflict, bearing in mind the current painful schisms in the Church of England. He will draw on his pastoral/theological and psychological insights to consider how we might work with individual and organisational defences to move from entrenched positions to a more co-operative stance.

Reverend Canon Jackie Searle

Jackie is the vicar of St Peter’s, Littleover, Derby, Rural Dean of Derby South and is a member of the General Synod of the Church of England. She was on the staff at Trinity College, Bristol from 1996-2003 where she was Dean of Women and taught Pastoral Theology. Jackie has been Dean of Women’s Ministry in the Diocese of Derby for several years and has interests in conflict transformation, pastoral theology, leadership and spirituality. She also undertakes occasional work for Bridge Builders in helping churches to handle conflict.

Using case studies Jackie will draw from her experience to enable us all to think about the different, often complex and difficult facets of working with conflict.

Throughout the weekend there will also be the opportunity for reflective practice groups and worship as well as free time to meet up with colleagues.

The conference will start at 4pm on Friday 18th May and close following lunch on Sunday 20th May.